1) Is selective kindness kind at all?


You hear stories about saints whose goodness touched all types of people and place. There are so few of them in proportion to mankind’s total population though, because it’s almost impossible to be kind to everybody and everything and all the time.

Consider: someone who is devoted to family and friends, who overlooks basic moral codes in the line of such devotion. And when this kind of person goes down, you hear another say, “Oh, but he was such a good guy.” And yet the more common sentiment would be otherwise because the average human being is expected to know right from wrong. Is knowing kindness and then selecting the scope of which or whom it specifically covers- considered kindness at all?

And yet-


2) Is collective kindness any better?

I once read that “(Your) life is the sum result of all the choices you make, consciously or subconsciously.” Someone who is simply kind to everybody and everything may already have preemptively chosen a singular way in life- one that holds little regard for reality’s varying circumstances; being impartial to all, no matter what.

Because in reality, there are good deeds and there are bad. If you are so kind as to believe that each action is as understandable and acceptable as the other, is collective kindness (one that dares not question even the things that go against the virtue’s very core) considered kindness at all? Is it really any better than carefully selecting who to love?




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2 thoughts on “kindness”

  1. This is a very thought-provoking post.

    Kindness doesn’t come naturally to me, and I’m currently at a stage in my life wherein I try to look beyond my own needs, wants, and feelings, in an effort to understand other people more. Thus creating more harmonious relationships.

    I struggle with the choice to be kind or be myself on a daily basis, not that I am such a monster, mind you.

    I am just one of those who think putting one’s self ahead of others isn’t necessarily bad.

    This post will stay on my mind for some more days, I reckon.

    Thank you.

    Warm regards, Ariane

    Sent from my iPad

    1. Thank you.
      I find myself asking these questions more and more as of late. Must be the times. It’s getting harder to tell real kindness from random affectations polite society has trained us to perform all through these years. The weird truth is that I am a staunch believer/ supporter of these traditions.

      So yes, we do need to ask ourselves these things once in a while.

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